"Oh they don't know what they're talking about!"
"That's insane!"
"They can't be in love!"
"They're too young!"
Are these accusations correct? With the pressure to be
mature at such young ages, why is the fact of young love
so hard for us to grasp? At older ages it is easier to
retain the way people fall in and out of love so quickly,
so what's so different about being in love at 14 rather
than 24?
Many people shuffle off the idea that teenagers can
love someone but, it's not as foolish as it sounds. The
older we get, the brain doesn't make it any easier to fall
in and out of love, it simply makes it more guarded
because of our past expirences. Young love isn't a refuge
for teenagers, it's simply something we do when things
become serious. We may not have had many past
relationships but, it's easy to know how love feels.
People find it easier to control the idea of falling in
love with things rather than people. As a child we love
many things, parents, siblings, toys, candy, and as we
grow older the presence of love grows more pronounce. We
start to love being with people and start to know why the
reason is. When we know the reasons why we love spending
time with people and love having their opinions and ideas
and thoughts floating around our lives, we start to love
the person.
Heartbreak may not be such an easy thing either, but as
we get older, holding it in and hiding the hurt is easier.
As a teenager, we don't know what different things feel
like at first and we let everything out in the open. So
when we're crying and asking our best friends, "Why did he
break up with me?", we aren't devestated that we aren't
with the person anymore, we simply want to know the facts
so the next we go out on a date or go out with someone,
we fix our mistakes.
As to the fact of hand holding and kissing, we like to
let the other person tht we care about them in more ways
than words. Most of us teenagers don't plan to
get 'physical' when we do things like that, we just want
to let the other person know that our words are
not 'airy'.
So when we try to grasp the facts that teenagers are
falling in and out of love, remember that when we say we
love someone, or even strongly like, our words are true.
The way our lives are wired so tightly and with all the
drama floating above our heads, we like to spend time with
someone who knows what we're talking about, as more than
just friends.