You must be the most compliant , immaculate , well-dressed , gleeful , friendly , prudent ,not abrasive , not snooty , not jaunty , but also not extremely serious , thoughtful , but smile occasionally , however do not smile too often because you will have cow’s feet and wrinkles ( it is obnoxious and unattractive ), quick-witted , witty , subservient for a man , acquiescent , not raucous , but also not tedious , tender , tenacious , astute , courteous , shrewd , lovely , always-radiating with seducing and enchanting energy ( but , do not be to ardent and lascivious , because everyone despise depravity ), elated , hard-working . Unblemished. Then , if you are exuberant and animal party , you are automatically excluded , as defiance is not accepted for women . So , you must look as the most gentle entity , wearing a mildly crimson dress , entwined with with stripes ( NO , it is forbidden , because it means that you are hankering for exposing your body publicly ), I would rather suggest you to encrust your body in a bag , only with two holes for your nose, ( no one wants a dead girl in the bag ). No matter , what others are saying , that you do not have to worry about others opinions and viewpoints , when you are a woman , every single thing ( whether subtle, trifling or paramounts) is left for other’s discretion. Do not deviate , that is true . It is grotesque , isn’t it ? While I was jotting down all of these adjectives , I have become soaked with repulsion how our world tends to perceive females . From the other viewpoint , you have an opportunity to enrich your adjective vocabulary :)
First and foremost , since my early childhood my friends , teachers and grandparents have been bidding to impose their views on my life ‘’ unobtrusively ‘’. By that I mean , they started prompting and advising me to learn how to cook , in order to know in advance how to please my future husband . Whenever I was deviating from their assumption that I was coveting for finding a husband , their perplexing and dumbfounded glances were devouring and dissecting me . Not only does it matter whether I will be having a husband or not , but children are the most essential , therefore without them my life would odious failure and disaster . My grandmother was frequently singing to me lullabies , by adding some unnecessary side details , that I am obliged to learn these lullabies by heart ( they do have different and disparate types , some of them were sang before going to bed , but some of them were sang in order to stimulate grogginess ) . The rebuttal and clear explanation why am I obliged to do that was obviously that they are included in my ‘’mother’’ abilities and skills. Without children , your life would be gushing with malice , anguish and penance that you must have conceived them , when you were flourishing with youth and fealty . Sooner or later , you must ascertain when you will have kids . Nonetheless , I was overreacting on these inklings and remarks so raucously and vigorously that it isn’t what my heart is desiring . However , women’s life-decisions are impeding , are not they ? Every single day someone is in charge of making our life decisions . Some is in charge of deciding whether we are striving for living our life independently from children , in a forlorn and personal dimension or must we born as many as possible offsprings . Someone is always in charge of doling out tasks to our life , we are existing , not living , as estranges slaveries from our own lifes . Where is a clemency for women ? Why do we have to beseech for treating us more politely ? All of the most ferocious and questionable questions are jiggling in my head , as sequent sequins , but without rhyme . Even their rhyme has been chosen by someone else .
The first question , specifically , the primordial questions which is still lingering or skulking in our dusty and dexterous hearts : Children and husband are an explanation why are you living , as a female ? Straightforwardly , no . From the face of it , if we commence digging in history and burrowing everything on the surface , we are able to hoist the most unexpected and bewildered facts and concepts about women’s history . In most instances , there would be the most splendid and candid life , when the woman was always hovering under her kids ( as an underling ) , instantaneously flipping an already burnt to obnoxious scab and simmering down the kids who have reiterated their rounds of prolong screech ( my ears have languished basically , just by typing this down ).Altough , the photos were truly showing the nearly every single woman was a housewife , on the other hand , no one was making announcements about more hidden and idols things , such as the fact that these women were mirthless and unsatisfied ( in addition to family abuse , defiance , incessant altercations and fights ). Sadly , the erasure of history is perceptible in every single possible aspect . I do believe , that we have made some significant and distinctive amendments in the way we started forming families . Notwithstanding on ubiquitous misconceptions , that we must carry babies , such as it is our responsibility . The only thing for which we are responsible for , it is our actions . Whether you are hankering for creating your own and unique family , up to you . However , it doesn’t mean that everyone must do the same , because it is not a compulsory objective . For some women , it is a bestowed gift to raise and bring up children , because they are deliriously caring , gregarious , amiable , affable , enduring and generally their predilection is to observe their offspring and tease herself as they are growing up . From another viewpoint , there are some who are not predisposed for making a contact with children , because literally it may sound as one of the most oblivious , vapid and out-of-reach task and it does not matter if they are accommodating and obstinate , it is just not their cup of tea . Secondly , will husband accomplish all of the most desirable and surreal objectives which are scattered on my itinerary , to presumably will he turn all of my undelieble ideas and insight into reality . To some extent , yes , if he is the wealthiest person , but supposing I want to become the creator of my independent and busty story ?