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How to make long distance relationships work
So you're done with school. Now it's time to get into a college. Luck has it and you and your boyfriend are in two different corners of the country. Most couples here decide to discontinue their relationship because they can't see each other for a while. In spite of the love they have for each other, they part ways to lead their respective lives. They move on or ‘try to’. But their love is always there. Securely held within their heart. No matter who they date, they will never be able to give the kind of love that they had given in their past relationship.
According to me, it is utter gibberish that long distance relationships can't work. I say they can. If you truly love someone and want to stay with them forever, it is totally wrong on your part to break up just because you can't meet.
So here are the ways to maintain a long distance relationship-
1. Trust your guy/girl
Its essential that you have complete faith in their words and believe that they will not see anyone behind your back. Now, how much you trust your beloved depends entirely on how healthy your relationship is and how much you love them and vice versa.
2. Express your doubts
If you have any queries or are feeling insecure about anything, talk to them and share with them your thoughts. This is vital because they need to know how you feel about certain things and will hence discuss the issue with you and try their level best to keep you from getting anxious.
3. Allot time for talking
Now that we're all gizmo freaks, we all have ways and means of talking to each other. Talk to you guy/girl and make sure that you set aside some time to talk to each other. Use your cell phones. Or you always have Skype and other Messengers where you can see each other too!
4. Keep them informed
Distances can often make people nervous. They might want to know all about you. Every single information is important to them. So please don’t get irritated with their constant pestering ( if you call it so). They are just concerned about you coz you are the world for them and every minute thing counts. So tell them every single thing and don’t hide stuff. Answer all their questions. The more you hesitate to answer them, the more suspicious and distant they become. So let them know. NO harm done in telling them right? After all, there are no secrets in love!
5. Meet each other
Occasionally, or probably when on a vacation, try to take some time off your schedule and spend some time with them. Give them a surprise visit. Hang out at some cozy restaurant or at either of your houses if you aren’t the kind who holds hand in public. It would really cheer them up to see you after dealing with so much pressure in college.
6. Keep their friend’s numbers
This is necessary as incase you have any thing urgent to tell them, you can contact their friends and they will pass it on. It’s also helpful when you’re away for their birthday or valentines day as you can plan up with their friends and get them some gift on your behalf.
All this will definitely help in keeping your relationship as strong as ever.
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This was a truly beautiful article - helpful, as well as encouraging. I have been in an LDR for the past year and a half now, but we are so emotionally close despite the phyiscal distance that sometimes it seems like the least of our problems!
Of course, it would nice for him to be around all the time, and it certainly isn't easy. There is an age difference along with the distance, which makes it hard to meet up. Although my parents accept it and his mother loves me as a person, it's difficult for his family to accept that I am younger. The declining economy makes affording plane tickets from here to there or there to here hard, too. But I will always be a firm believer in the ability to make Long Distance Relationships work by using all the tips you mentioned above! Thank you for giving me faith in my relationship I may have forgotten about.
your article is really nice but it reminds me of my problem. i have a bestfriend who is with me since 3 years. its been a while now that we both love each other a lot. the problem is that i ll be shifting to a boarding school and he will be in some other school. my parents like him as my friend but they cannot accpt him as my boyfriend. his mother loves me but his father cant accept me as his girlfriend. there are many problems and we are not able to solve those problems. i now dont wanna go away and he too hates the fact. we still havnt decided wedr we shud make this official cuz if we do and later on there is some problem i knw he will be hurt real bad. this has happened to him before when his ex shifted to japan. i dnt want the same to happen again. i cant see him cry cuz even if i love him he will always be my bestfriend.
Hey... I think it's ok to be i a long distance relationship.. even if you can't meet often, you talk a lot... Communication in any form is good for a relationship. And like you said, you can relocate to somewhere near by for college... Your mom is just concerned for you I guess.. But he's not that old... I mean its only an year.
And one fight so far is actually amazing. Cos in such situations people generally tend to bicker a lot.. And if your boyfriend is complaining that you talk a lot, its probably cos he has't got much to tell you. So when you are done talking, you can get time off for yourself... Give him some space too... Cos talking to you all day will not give him a chance to talk to his other friends...
And to get motivated to make things work, you can probably look up the universities near his place in your free time.. Google them, find out if they offer courses you're interested in.. See when you try to find some positivity in things you're doing, you will feel better and it will also do good... And your mom can't stop you from entering a university of your choice right? Tell her that he's only an year older and she needn't worry.. Also, I would suggest that you don't discuss much with her about him as clearly she isn't very fond of the idea.. Her concern probably is that he might not be a good guy, cos you've never even met him.. If you can convince her that he is a humble and decent guy who's not trying to take you for a ride, she will be more supportive...
Try making her talk to him occasionally... Hope that helps :)
