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Breakup Advice
After those amazing relationships end, you have to ask yourself how things will continue. If you broke up with your partner, you must either be unhappy with them, mad at them, tired of them, or some other circumstance. So, if it is you who breaks up with the other, stop and think. As one single person, you don't have any idea what the other might go through. One moment to you is completely different that that of another. For example, you might go on a date and have the time of your life, oblivious to that fact that the one you care for is about to slit their wrists in boredom.
Just and example.
But that is something that you can relate to a breakup. You might think that things are better off without the other. They might be tripping and falling behind you, trying to catch up and get you back. It happens a lot, and these breakups are the worst. I myself went through one. And I've scraped my knees so much over these past to years tripping and falling after her(yes, two years. She's so beautiful I can't stop thinking about her). I've found out the the first and most important thing you can do to stay out of those horrible, bad break ups, is to forget. Easier said then done, right? Well, there is only one way to completely get over such a thing. Overwrite the memories that the two of you shared. Now, people call this a rebound, but isn't every boyfriend/girlfriend after the first a rebound? You must make better memories with this person. Have a greater time, and think about the new things you share rather then all the things you used to share with the other. Take it from me, with time, almost everything is mendable.
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i agree with everything except the forgetting part... if you forget, then u dont remember who you loved or who you shared those memories with.... love is the greatest risk, but the greatest risk in life is to risk nothing.
I was in love with this one guy that i was with for 2 years and 9 months. he broke up with me for another chick, and i still love him.. there's no doubt n my mind about that.. it's been approx. 3 years since all that happened, and im not ashamed of still having feelings for him. he's got 4 kids (and only 22) and each time one is born, i wish it was me, yes, but im just happy for him bc he's happy. if u really love someone you only want them to be happy in life... even if it's not with you... i'm happy for him bc he's happy.. i love his kids like they are mine and that's all one can do wn things like this happen.
I absolutely love this, and even though some people don't agree with it, I most certainly do. I was in love with a guy for multiple years, in an on-again-off-again relationship with him, when he totally decided he wasn't going to commit to me anymore. He broke my heart, but I hung on. But you were right to say that the best thing is to overwrite the memories...I was afraid to fall for anyone else because I was still hanging onto HIM, but another guy came along. I guess you could say he's my rebound...but the point is, I love this new guy 10 times more than I EVER loved the other one. He is my true love, and everytime I see his smile, I "trip and fall" after him :)
So, yes, as you said, "with time, everything is mendable." Thanks for writing this :)
I agree with most of this. Most.
Notice I say not all.
Why?
Because why would you overwrite those memories? If you truly loved someone...why even try to forget about them? I understand trying to get rid of bad memories, but if the only way to hold on to the good times is to also remember the bad...I'd choose to take a few bad memories and keep all the good ones, instead of just starting over.
It just seems to me, if you truly loved someone, you wouldn't forget him/her, even if they forgot you.
yesss... but... sometimes its just wat u need to fall in love all over again. u cant be worrying about the other person if ur crazy in love with ur new one! however i know what u r saying. beccause then u get tired of them and want to leave, even tho there are still some real connections being made. and then u feel guilty for using them in some ways and stay, and more connections are made. and eventually u just have to go and then it hurts u both.
sry bout the typing and wording- going fast :P
I am really sorry for what you went through, but I just had to tell you something.
I've been "the girl in the bed" before, and she hurts just as much as you do. The guy probably is NOT worth it. Trust me on this one, he's just a headache and an EXTREME heartache. Though, you know him better than I do.
Just putting in my two cents!
I like the last line, almost everything is mendable.
But is it really?
Sometimes, it's hard to think so. People heal at different rates, and some people were never cut up at all. And then you're stuck there wondering if they care as much as you do.
But anyway! great article.
I love this(:
It is soo tuee
what his mom doesn't know won't hurt her...
any way, im really sorry about the trouble you are going through. pls tell your boyfriend im so sorry for the both of you
